Three friends in their mid 30s have experienced plenty of success in their careers, but not in their romantic lives. Their close friendship helps guide them through life as they learn that love can come in unexpected places, even relationships that seem perfect take work, and sometimes all you really need to do to be happy is love yourself.
Still, Marry Me was a good drama, but sadly its intentions were better than its implementation. The story revolves around 34 year old Lee Shin Yeong, who was left by her long-term boyfriend shortly before they were supposed to get married. Now, she’s quite successful at her job and happy with her two girlfriends, but lacking in her love life.
This all changes when she meets Ha Min Jae, a 24 year old college student and singer-songwriter, whom she starts dating through some hilarious circumstances.
What I really liked about Still, Marry Me was its portrayal of the relationship of the main characters and its topic of ageing in a society that’s (especially in the case of South Korea) vastly different than it was just a few decades ago. It challenges what expectations women (and to some extent men) face as they grow older and how these expectations might, quite frankly, simply be outdated. In Western societies a large age difference in dating may not be as big a deal as it seems to be in South Korea – although I’d wager that it’s very different from case to case and depending on individual family values – but in this drama, it’s the main aspect to be explored.
Therefore, luckily, this drama was not so much about the protagonists figuring out whether they are in love, but more about finding out what staying together would actually mean for them. “When I’m 44 you’re 34, when you graduate from college I might already not be able to bear children anymore, can we adjust lifestyles and circles of friends that are quite different”, were the questions the couple had to answer. And the main couple was very cute and despite Kim Beom not being the best actor, I felt like they had very good chemistry and worked well together.
So, in a society that still conveys strongly traditional gender tropes, seeing the protagonist Lee Shin Yeong detach herself from these convictions and trying to see what the best is for herself and her boyfriend in their particular situation as someone who’s employed and someone who’s still attending college, and not in terms of their traditional roles in society, was very refreshing. It was also nice to see a drama tackle the actual realities of relationships instead of the shaky way that forms them. This was partly explored in the side stories, with Lee Shin Yeong’s friend and roommate getting married and realising that getting married may not be the solution for all of her problems after all, and obstacles may arise in all stations of life.
But sadly, no matter how much I liked the messages the drama conveyed, it does not completely make up for the fact that there simply wasn’t enough story for 16 hours of screen time. I felt myself reaching for my phone quite often, with storylines being repetitive or just stretching on needlessly. And as with most Korean dramas, the quality of production decreased the further the drama got to its last episodes. Even though there seemed to be a lack of story in the middle part, the last episode felt rushed, and it felt like storylines that were opened up in the beginning or middle of the drama didn’t get the closure they deserved.
But I do think very fondly of the whole drama and it left me with a satisfied feeling overall (unlike other dramas I may have enjoyed more in the moment, but were forgotten a lot more quickly). Therefore, if it were possible, I’d give it maybe 3 ½ stars. And even though it’s not a masterpiece, if the topics I’ve mentioned are something you’re interested in, or if you want to watch something nice and light, I still recommend this quite whole-heartedly. Just be ready to have something to do on the side when the story starts to slow.
A nice view on not just the older woman-younger man relationship, but also on how society and we view getting older.
This show focuses on the issues the three women face as ones based on real life. They're all successful women who are comfortable with where they are in their lives; so they don't suddenly face identity crisis or make decisions an unsure teenager would. They make decisions that any adult would do, suck up the mistakes they made and see multiple view points. In an industry where characters start off like them and then devolve into polar opposites, the consistency was great to have.
And the acting was great, with the core friendship making this show worthwhile. These were friends who would support your pride when needed, but also give it to you bluntly and painfully if you needed it. The characters complemented each other and the situations drew nice parallels to show that while something make work in one instance, it may not work as well in something similar because of an "X" factor.
For being realistic, enjoyable and funny to boot, this show goes on my recommend-to-watch list.
Both dramas have group of single women in their 30s who are trying to find their love and get married. They have struggles, they give up on trying to do anything,
If you like "Sex and the City" and "I need romance," you should definitely check this drama out!